Schema Therapy
en.wikipedia.orgIt sees this was never on HN, which is surprising, given how much psychological, wellbeing related content is on HN.
After almost two years of (net) work which took me more than a decade (interrupted), I can finally say that I am thorough and this works and highly recommended. There are a lot of disorders that I thought I had but ultimately it seems that all of these are my coping mechanisms that worked when I was a child but drags me down as an adult. Hopefully someone finds this helpful.