Ask HN: Do you tend to say “our work” or “my work” more often?
I’ve yet to find people with similar enough motivations, outlooks, and experience that we can work well together as a strong team.
It’s been easier for me to work solo and look for options to maximize the amount of work that I could get done alone.
Given the mythical man month principle, I feel that I’m right in choosing to delay as much as possible collaborating with other people.
It seems that working as a group is only beneficial when most of the critical decisions have already been made, and there is already a great process in place so that everyone knows exactly what they need to do and there are fewer arguments.
But I also come across people who don’t seem to have any strong sense of individuality at all and no strong desire for independent thinking.
It seems coming from solo runner/climber vs ball player instinct.
People whose natural instinct is wired to play and enjoy soccer/football etc are hard for me to understand.
And they seem to have taken something from growing up and playing as a team into their work, they would say things like:” you can only win as a team and you can’t win alone.”
So I am not sure if my introverted instinct is an advantage or a blindspot.
And since I am currently building a product for other people, I am concerned that I might create too many introverted assumptions and biases in the app, especially considering how people think of their time.
I think the app I’m creating would be great for solo devs, but how many 100% solo devs are out there anyway?
So do you tend to say “ our work” or “my work” more often in thinking about your work time?
Like how do you draw the line between your work, your effort and others effort?
I would appreciate any insight on this topic. As an interesting aside, when interviewing candidates I pay attention to "I did.." vs "We did". If a candidate only talks about "what we did" it is a yellow flag that will lead me to press for more details on how they specifically contributed. I always address in "we" at workplace and always say things like "we did this", "we figured out the issue" etc. Never try to point only on my work unless I am having a one-to-one meeting.