Ask HN: Does anyone here suffer from a speech impediment?

As a kid I had a stutter, sometimes it still emerges now when talking passionately about something, and a few other situations. But gee I hated speaking in front of the class at school. Didn't seem fair I had to do it! But I never talked to anyone about my problem, which I'd do in 2 seconds if I lived that over again. (Same with bullying) I think maybe it was to do with very low self-esteem. And I was very shy, self-conscious.

Something that comes to mind is a story I heard about George Clooney - in the beginning he was having no luck at auditions. So he decided to switch from a mentality of "Please help me, please give me what I want" to "I'm here because I have something unique to offer you and the production", which made all the difference. I think that would work in many difficult situations for stuttering and fear of public speaking. One time I had to talk in front of the class about my long holiday in Europe, it wasn't a problem. (Except when my throat cracked after speaking for so long! hehe.) Because I was the one with something to offer them, I guess.

Mainly, get some expert help, read books about it. Watch The King's Speech. Cause it is unpleasant, for you and others. More commonly I hear in people's speech what seems undiagnosed dyslexia - a combination of mixing terms, using wrong words, not being able to pronounce words.

Stuttering and stammering since childhood. Went to a speech therapist when I was a teenager and it did help a bit, but it hasn't gone out completely. I still do it multiple times a day. As others have pointed out, phone calls, interviews and presentations are the worst. It was a huge psychological block when growing up, especially talking to girls.

What worked for me was that I read a lot. And it opened my mind. I realized that if you are good at something, and if you can excel at it and provide something of value to someone, you are going to do well in life. Also I realized that due to my speech problems, there are somethings that I may never be able to become or achieve, like a smooth talker. So I decided pretty early on, that I need to focus on my strengths and make them so awesome that my limitations are overshadowed by them.

Since I can't talk much without stuttering or stammering, I keep quiet most of the times. This has mostly led people around me to believe that I am a reticent guy who keeps his focus on the work before him. Another thing that I do is not open my mouth until I have something really concrete to say. The argument that I am going to put out, is par often well thought out, so that I don't have get into a talking situation with someone.

Even taking interviews is a tough task.

All in all, it hasn't turned out as bad as I thought. Life is still good. :)

I do. It is something called Pseudo Foreign Dialect [1], iirc. I basically have accent in every language I speak including native.

As an immigrant in the US, I don't find this affects me much. A lot of people just assume this is my accent, though some wonder why my accent is not same as others from my native country.

Growing up in my country, it was a bit rough, people including grownups & teachers loved to point out that I sounded funny. Sometimes, it was worse. I can guess it would have impacted my confidence & career significantly if I was professional back home.

I love it that people are more polite in the West especially in the US. Sometimes people have difficulty understanding me and they are very apologetic about it.

I try to speak slower and louder in business especially on phone. I might slightly exaggerate pronunciations. And if I see confused look on a listener's face, I would pre-emptively apologize for my accent and repeat or spell out the word. I find this is better for conversation than being defensive about my accent.

I have fear of public speaking but I am slowly working to overcome it. If I have to do presentation, I just slow down a lot, take a lot of breaks in between sentences to let audience process a new strange accent. Usually, my presentations are with my coworkers, so they are used to my accent.

If I was in sales or public facing position than it might have impacted me more. I am lucky to be a programmer.

Also I worked with someone stutter a lot. Everyone was super nice, and they would let him finish talking. If arguments started and he didn't get a chance to say much, my manager would step in and ask him direct question if he had anything to add.

[1]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dysprosody

I have had a blocking stutter (disfluency) since the 3rd grade. Went through several years of speech therapy and as I have gotten older it has improved to the point that most people can't tell. I still have daily issues with it but have learned to mask it pretty well (switching to a different word when I block, pausing naturally when not blocking, etc.)

I definitely think it has had an impact on my personal and professional life, to what degree I am not sure. I try to avoid giving group presentations or talking on conference calls when I don't have to.

It has never cost me a job or prevented me from being successful as a developer (CTO now) but it is constantly on my mind and makes trivial situations more complicated. I have learned over the years that a lot of it is in my head, and most people will never know, but it still affects how I conduct myself on a daily basis.

If you do suffer from blocking I recommend always trying to be prepared for any speaking situations you might be in. Do your best to stay relaxed (face, mouth, lips), speak slowly and consistently, taking normal breaks regularly so that any blocks don't seem out of place. The best therapy is really just practicing speaking blocking words aloud by yourself or with a partner/friend.

I have a mild stutter, I generally just call it a "vocal catch" because it's usually getting stuck and not being able to produce a sound instead of repeating a syllable. Usually only happens a couple times a day during normal conversation. More so when emotional.

IM is awesome. Very glad that's a thing.

I have a penchant for looking up a new word's synonyms. Which usually results in having a couple of "escape hatches" if I feel myself getting caught up. Sometimes, however, that's not the case and I just have to accept that I'm getting tripped up. At that point I'll audibly sigh, which usually un-sticks me enough to proceed.

When I give presentations, they are usually to my team. I've explained to everyone and they are understanding (I also asked them to not fill in the word they think I'm trying to say). There's mutual respect and they all patiently wait when it happens. Having that understanding really reduces the stress and makes presenting not painful.

I grew up with a Rhotacism, I pronounced my Rs like Ws.

For me the biggest issue was bullying. My first name is Robert, so I became known as Wobert. What also didn't help was that I was born in England and moved to Northern Ireland in the mid-80s. My non-rhotic English accent made me a target for bullying like you wouldn't believe.

I spent my teenage years working on fixing it by myself. Just sitting practicing my speech. Eventually I lost my English accent and sort-of fixed my rhotacism. I say sort-of my Rs sound like Rs, but they ae very flat and I can't roll them at all.

Occasionally I'll mispronounce an R as a W, but usually that only happens when I'm tired or very distracted.

I am a nervous speaker and can't string together thoughts and ideas effectively. I usually end up stammering while i search for words with which to express myself. It can be torturous when I am put on the spot. It's not an impediment in the sense of a medical condition, but it definitely impedes.

I have Wernicke's aphasia. It's a symptom of something larger, which gets in the way of work more, but the aphasia is difficult.

It makes processing questions difficult, so with presentations I may have to suddenly end when I realise I can't understand what is being asked.

Talking for long periods is also an issue, as my brain will start issuing words that are only vaguely related to what I think I'm saying.

I've usually worked around it by having a junior dev I'm mentoring accompany me to take over when it happens.

I stutter, sometimes really bad. I've written about it at https://justink.svbtle.com/being-a-founder-with-a-speech-imp....

I'm a single and multiple startup founder. When I was trying to raise capital for one of my companies it was certainly an impediment and felt like I squandered multiple meetings (investors, VC's, business opportunities) sometimes only getting a few complete sentences out.

Phone and virtual meetings are worse for me, so whenever possible I try to always meet in person. Stress and anxiety makes my stuttering worse. Strangely I've also found my stuttering seems to have seasons. Certain times that tend to get worse.

I'm pretty sure Elon Musk has a stammer/stutter but it's gotten way better probably with such public practice and working with a speech therapist since he has unlimited funds to spend on improvement.

There have been some great threads on stuttering here on HN:

- How to Stop Apologizing for My Stutter, and Other Important Lessons (https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=14949950)

- Being a single founder with a speech impediment (my own post) (https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=7649325)

Hit me up, my contact info in my HN profile. Interested to chat, and hear what you are working on.

I stutter, it ranges from almost unnoticeable to horrible, depending on the situation.

I think it does not limit my performance or capabilities, definitely not as much as I was fearing when growing up. There are times when I can't explain clearly what I need, but it's not a big problem, there are other ways. I have no problem with meetings in person, but despite learning to overcome this my entire life, I still hate conference calls.

The general rule for dealing with it is "not giving a damn". It helps you mentally and improves the stuttering at the same time. Programming is a technical work, you don't need to say much and when you do, it's typically in between close team, so that helps. And if you have something important to say, people will take the time to understand you.

The only problem I have experienced are interviews. I make a very bad first impression and usually the rest of the interview is based on that.

I'm a stutterer and English is my second language so I get even more nervous when trying to speak, it does affect my work because I can't really communicate what I'm trying to say without going back to a whiteboard explaining a programming concept or something so I usually resorts to not saying anything even when I know what other people are saying is bs.

I dread making or taking phone calls and even though I'm confident on my programming knowledge the anxiety prevents me from looking for another job where I can be making what I think I'm worth, on the flip side I would like to be a salesman talking to people all day and not having a desk job but my anxiety prevents me from doing so, anxiety worsen my stutter which in turns makes me more anxious ( a never ending cycle)

Field Tech for data center equipment.

If I stumble on a word more than twice I just use a synonym, or a description. Get some smiles in meeting crowds, but no one really cares. It can even be a helpful "calm everyone down" thing, since people can really get stressed out.

I'm not sure this could be classified as a speech impediment.

But once in a while I will accidentally use the wrong word. E.g. saying blue instead of red.

Or I might change my mind mid word on what to say, and just start saying that mid word, and gibberish comes out. It's not a conscious thing, it just happens.

The only thing that bothers me, is that I swap out words. It is not always I notice, which could lead to misunderstandings that I won't be able to correct unless someone asks me to confirm what I meant.

Talking gibberish is not an issue, as I notice right away and will be able to repeat what I actually wanted to say.

I don't act differently because of it, and I do enjoy presenting

I have Ankyloglossia. It doesn't affect my job performance as a lot of communication is in email / Slack / Github anyway. I do find I have to make more of an effort to speak clearly.

When I don't make an effort, my words aren't pronounced as well as they should and people have to ask me to repeat what I said (or intended to say).

My job doesn't involve phone calls or presentations so there fortunately isn't a need to speak for a long period of time.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ankyloglossia

I've had a stammer since childhood, I'm a covert stammerer so I try my best to hide it and substitute words that I know I'm going to stammer / block on, most people probably don't realise that I have a stammer. I think it started when I was transitioning from primary school to middle school which was a very stressful and daunting time.

Throughout my life my speech has gone up and down. Mainly the quality of my speech has a positive correlation with how comfortable / confident I'm feeling.

I've had speech therapy in the past and learnt techniques that help a lot but it only really works if you're prepared to spend a large chunk of your day practising and preparing for speaking situations.

Any kind of stammer has a massive impact on your life because you can't express yourself and be the person you really are. I feel like the impact hasn't been as great in my professional life because in most programming jobs your performance is primarily based on the quality of your code. However I should probably be a bit further up the career ladder, I have the knowledge but not the communication skills.

I feel a great deal of shame / embarrassment / frustration as a stammer but having said that everyone has problems in their life and I'm thankful and grateful that I've got good health.

To anyone reading this and those that have already commented, please don't hesitate to contact me - my details are on my HN profile.

I've been stuttering since a child and still do so . Therapy as a kid did help me a little bit but I know its never going to go away . I'm not going to get into how speaking to girls/taking calls and presentations is not only difficult but also crippling especially when you see the person you address run out of patience and complete the sentence for you . Its affected me a lot and I dont think I'll ever be able to get over the social anxiety . So i started compensating by throwing myself into books and music as an escape mechanism . When that didnt help much I started drinking heavily and doing drugs . I still do drugs and drink to avoid the embaressemnt around my speech impediment and the fact that I dont stutter when I speak , but not as heavily as I used to . I've just stopped caring what people think at this point in time and still give conference talks and take interviews

There's a guy at my work who has a mild stutter. He starts every talk out with something like "My name's such and such, I have a mild stutter so don't let that bother you" and then immediately starts his talk and never mentions the stutter again. It's a smooth and quick transition, but most importantly he actually gives good talks - tells jokes, is passionate and knowledgeable, has informative and clear slides, and really makes it easy to understand his data.

The thing is, most talks are garbage. The audience really is rooting for you, because they're just desperate to hear anything interesting or see a slide that isn't just bullet-pointed text.

Not tech related, but I had a history teacher in high school with a stammer. He lectured/led discussions even though he had a stammer and was probably the favorite teacher of students in the entire school. I think he may now be a head of a different school. I don't think his path was easy and I know he was discouraged from teaching early on, but a speech impediment shouldn't stop you from anything you want to do.

On a practical note, it's offen best to do the most painful things often. You may want to consider joining a local toastmasters club and doing talks once a month. One you're used to doing that, running meetings won't be so scary

My son, 8, has dysfluency & stuttering. My daughter, 5, too has speech development issues, dysfluency being one. I worry what the future holds for them. Already, it manifests itself as social isolation, especially for my son.

When I'm tired, I sometimes jumble the word order in my sentences while speaking.

I didn't have this until middle age, so I was scared about some kind of acute cognitive decline.

Seems to go away whenever I get back to healthy sleep patterns.

Morgan Housel from Collaborative fund has dealt with it his whole life.

he wrote a whole piece that was amazing and very motivating about his continuous battle:

http://www.collaborativefund.com/blog/overcoming-your-demons...

you can find him on twitter @morganhousel

rock on mate.... the world is our oyster and we each have a unique view on it :)

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> Anyone here have a Speech Impediment?

In early public grade school [1st-4th grade after being first noticed during Kindergarten] I had to go to the school's speech therapist; I had a speech stutter plus a mild lisp against the sound "sh" as in "shut up", a worst lisp against the sound "ch" as in "chimney", and a medium lisp against pronouncing the letter "h" as in "e-f-g-H-i-j" not the actual sound as in "Hairy Henry".

Naturally, I hated being pulled out of class x3 a week for the speech therapy; it just screamed "Hey that kid's SPED" ("SPecial EDucation") and I knew it, and I also knew it wasn't doing me any favors on making friends [the prospect of bullying for "not talking right" be damned, that just wasn't a concern for me then against actual social interaction and social familiarity being time-limited -- don't ask my how I understood this so early on, I just did]. When I switched schools in the middle of 4th grade, I still had to go to the speech therapy but then also the "catch-up sessions" for "being academically behind" too, so now I was forced to double-down on being pulled out of class. Not Good, as now I'm "Double SPED". I had to get out of that crap and the sooner the better; I had to Be Normal [which became a Life Goal, as rational or irrational as you need that to be], especially as the New Kid who just switched schools in the middle of the bloody school year.

Before that school year ended, fortunately, I managed to talk my way out of continuing the speech therapy by explaining this "SPED Stigma" to the teachers, parents, and speech therapist involved [I realized the pun of phrasing it this way only 2-3 years ago, and decided to keep it for the telling here]. I got to skip the speech therapy for the rest of time and agreed to just grit my teeth through the Catch-Up sessions until summer came. Luckily enough I had "caught up enough" to be treated as a normal student from 5th grade onward. My stutter was an occasional treat instead of an Always Thing, and the "sh//ch//h" pronunciation issues were just what they were gonna be at that point with no additional helping to be had.

By University it was clear to me that my stutter was going to manifest itself when I was overly nervous, overly excited, or mentally impaired [e.g. migraines, booze]. That's fine, no one cared or cares. For the pronunciations, guess what? One single person since 4th grade asked if I "had a lisp" and simply because he was honestly curious and we were cool at the time; if anyone else has ever noticed, they've kept their mouth shut to my face so that's all whatever on that front.

I bought a copy of "The King's Speech" after seeing it in theater. The scene with the record-player and headphones in the therapist's office, and the climactic scene with the globally national radio address, are touching.

Last year I went to a ComicCon and quite randomly got an autograph from Matt Frewer... AKA Max Headroom. I mentioned that my olde speech therapist from grade school mentioned his character numerous times in attempts to get me to be comfortable and at-least be less self-conscious, and he mentioned how whatever the national "speech therapist stutterers association of America" group at the time kept calling in to the show with good will. He also gave an obligatory compliment toward how I spoke, which I of course very much appreciated. Yes, I promptly framed the autographed Max Headroom picture with no regrets.

> What about your work, phone calls, and The Dread Pirate Presentations?

My work isn't negatively influenced. Sure, I get nervous during presentations I have to give, but since I'm aware of my own stutter whilst nervous I add in the pauses and other mental gymnastics that can help my speech; I still get error but I'm ok with that for now. Still, no one cares enough to mention; I'm still not a card-carrying member of Toast Masters, but I do listen to The Moth.

I've never had problems with conference calls or meetings; sure I'll double-up on stuff like "... what, what about XYZ?" or "But that's, what's that gonna do about ABC?", but that's normal enough conversationalist phrasing to not blip on most people's radar and no one's said anything to my face about it.

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> Work with people with speech issues?

I knowingly have not as far as my memory is concerned, but a few years ago I did interview at a place where one of the higher-ups who interviewed me did have a severe stutter. "Stage 4", honestly speaking.

Obviously I was sympathetic and patient -- because of my above history, not necessarily because I was the on the short end of the power dynamic -- and asked for clarification on anything I just couldn't understand from his stutter as if he had had a very heavy accent instead. He seemed used to such interaction and took it in stride. I still felt uncomfortable, a lot of it due to my sympathy and empathy for him; we both had no illusions about what was going on -- there's a severe stutter here, he's clearly making an effort to being understood, I'm clearly making an effort to understand, so let's do this -- but since I was on the short end of the power dynamic I didn't want to play the "I just can't understand you" card every two minutes [yes I needed clarification at that frequency at a minimum if not sooner it was that bad].

Note: I wasn't provided an offer for that gig but it had nothing to do with this guy's stutter or my opposing behavior toward it; this was simply a Bad Fit all around and I have little regret over it.

The "good news" here is that at this company there's a higher up who has a severe stutter; people clearly have the patience [or tolerance, or professionalism, or whatever thesaurus equivalent you want to use] to have this guy around creating value.

Yep. Stutter and stammer since childhood. It does cause people not taking me seriously. It's lesser in intensity though.

I work with someone who stutters here and there. He is very upfront about it. I have not cared about it ever since but it did give help me figure out how to have better conversations with him.