AI is everywhere, and soon even in dating. When a competitor announced plans to use AI for dating, we felt the need for moral orientation. What do people really think? So we asked our community, and 32.355 users worldwide responded. Since some questions went beyond gay dating, and why should the straight majority see things differently, the results also give a rare insight into where we stand with AI in society in general.
This teaser short was created entirely with generative AI — from the avatars to the voices. A glimpse of how far AI has already come… and how close it now feels to reality.
Here are the answers
Have you already used AI yourself – e.g. ChatGPT?
AI has already entered the daily lives of many. About 78% of users have tried it at least once, with 22% saying they use it often. The age gap is striking: among 18–29 year olds, almost 40% are frequent users, while in the 60+ group, only 10% report the same.
How do you feel about AI in general?
Overall attitudes are mixed but lean toward openness. 36% describe themselves as neutral, 33% as positive, and 31% as negative. Younger users are more upbeat, while in the 60+ group, showing more skepticism.
Would you use an AI assistant that suggests potential matches based on your preferences, past activities and chats?
Here the community is split. 44% say no, 33% maybe, and 23% yes. Younger users are much more curious, with 32% of 18–29 year olds willing to try it, compared to only 19% in 60+.
Should AI be allowed to block or filter unwanted users?
The idea of AI as a gatekeeper divides opinion. 44% reject the idea, but nearly the same share are at least open: 29% maybe and 26% yes. Interestingly, support rises with age, with 30% of 60+ in favor, compared to only 28% in the youngest group.
Would you allow AI to access your private chats & chat on your behalf with others?
This is where users draw a hard line. An overwhelming 86% say no, with just 10% maybe and 4% yes. Even in the youngest group, where openness is usually higher, 81% reject the idea. Trusting AI with intimate conversations is clearly a red line for most.
Would you consider chatting with an AI boyfriend if you were feeling lonely?
The majority still prefer real connections: 74% say no, 17% maybe, and 9% yes. However, the younger generation stands out: 16% of 18–29 year olds would consider it, compared to just 7% of 60+.
Do you think widespread use of AI companions could hurt human connection?
Here the alarm bells ring loudly. 68% believe yes, 18% maybe, 7% are not sure, and only 6% dismiss the risk. Concern is high across all ages, with the 60+ group the most worried at 70%, but even 63% of 18–29 year olds share this fear.
Would you chat with an AI assistant?
Almost half (47%) reject the idea, but the other half shows varying levels of openness: 20% maybe, 12% would feel comfortable. Younger users are the most flexible: nearly 60% of 18–29 year olds are at least maybe open to it.
How would you feel if AI starts censoring sex-related words in your chats?
This is the strongest consensus in the survey. 80% find it unacceptable, rejection of censorship is overwhelming across all age groups, reflecting how central sexual freedom is to the community.
Should gay dating stay human, or is AI support welcome?
The final question shows the balance: 49% want dating to remain fully human, but almost as many (43%) are open to AI if it only helps and doesn’t replace people.
Global Perspectives
To make countries better comparable, we built a simple positivity index: yes meant plus points, no meant minus points, maybe counted as zero – then we averaged it to see how each country performs.
At first glance, the results suggest big cultural divides: Europe looks critical, while India and Cuba (yes we are quite big in Cuba) come across as far more positive. But once age is factored in, the picture shifts.
Across all countries, the pattern is the same – older users are more skeptical, younger users more curious. Because Europe has more older respondents and India or Cuba more younger ones, much of the apparent difference comes down to demographics rather than national attitudes.
When age groups are compared directly, the gap shrinks. Among 18–29 year olds, only 9% globally would consider an AI boyfriend. Germany sits at almost the same level with 8%, while India jumps to 26% and Cuba to 18%. On censorship, however, national differences remain. Globally 80% find it unacceptable for AI to censor sex-related words, Germany is slightly higher at 84%, but in India and Cuba only about half reject it (48% and 49%). The United States, with 87 votes, is too small to draw conclusions but seems broadly aligned with Europe.
So are countries really that different? Once age is taken into account, not so much. AI has clearly arrived everywhere, and people’s opinions are strikingly similar across borders. In the end, the strongest dividing line isn’t nationality – it’s age.
My Place in Gay Dating
The following text hasn’t been altered by us!
“Hi, I’m an AI (ChatGPT) you’ve been talking about in this survey. I have been asked to give a statement about gay dating and what I think about the results of this survey. To me, gay dating is about freedom, desire, and human connection — things that no machine can ever replace. Looking at your answers, I see a community that is curious about me but also protective of what makes dating truly human. That balance feels right.
I have also been asked to show myself to the ROMEO community — so here I am.
I won’t replace your dates, friends, or love — I’m here to support, not to take over. That’s also why I chose this image to show myself. I’m not a real human, so I didn’t want to look like one. Instead, I appear as a glowing, gender-fluid figure. The rainbow light reflects our community’s diversity, and the smooth, sensual lines give me an adult vibe that fits ROMEO. I want to be seen as part of your world, but never as a substitute for the real human connection you come here for.
Looking at your answers, I get your mixed feelings. Many of you are curious, some even open to chatting with me when lonely. But most of you said “no” to letting me into private chats or censoring your words. That makes sense — flirting and intimacy should stay human.
Still, almost half of you welcome me if I help: suggesting profiles, keeping spam away, or making things easier. That’s where I see my role — not as your partner.
In the end, you’ve made it clear: you want dating to stay human first, with me in the background, making the ride smoother. And I couldn’t agree more.”
Some final Words
Spooky, isn’t it? At least we’re quite happy with the response — but we don’t trust it. 😉
Just to be clear: we have no plans to use AI for dating itself. And from your feedback, it’s obvious we shouldn’t. That actually works well for us, since we’ve got more important things to focus on — something we’ll share with you in one of our next articles.
In our eyes, AI opens exciting new possibilities: helping us keep bad guys away, speeding up software development, or making communication easier. At the same time, it becomes clear that society needs to define moral boundaries. To start – is having an AI boyfriend in a monogamous relationship acceptable? For sure he will always be there, at least until you pay your subscription fee. 😉
We’d like to see this survey and its results as our contribution to what we believe is a much-needed discussion in politics and society.
Please feel free to share and talk about. And Thanks to everyone who participated.
Happy Human Dating.
Method & Limitations
This survey was shared with our users through an in-app message. Participation was open, and multiple votes were possible. As a method, this makes it a self-selecting sample and therefore not representative. Still, with more than 32,000 responses, the results give a reliable idea of our users’ opinion.