8 [Startup] Things I’m Better At Now That I’m 30
deeringdavis.wordpress.comThe thing I am most improved at at 31 vs. 17 is satisficing or half-assing anything unimportant and non-core (but doing it quickly, and ideally with as little ongoing involvement as possible), and focusing on what is actually core.
aka pick your battles.
And, relatedly, only fixing problems as they become necessary to solve vs. trying to do everything in the order of how interesting it is, or how difficult. A lot of problems just go away if you're successful, and almost all problems go away if you fail to complete earlier goals.
aka "I'll burn that bridge when I come to it"
Things I am worse at at 55 vs. 25: the 50 yard dash.
Things I am better at at 55 vs. 25: everything else.
Seriously.
Magic Johnson (great American basketball player) once described the difference of being a world class athlete at 30 vs. 20: you have to be a whole lot smarter about how you use your body and recover when competing with younger people.
We programmers OTOH get the best of both worlds: the ability to work smarter against a physical and mental landscape that doesn't degrade nearly as fast as a world class athlete.
Frankly, when it comes to work, I can't think of a single thing I "used to do better", not creativity, not work habits, not personal habits, not physical or mental toughness.
I believe that programming, like running, is one of those things where the performance curve can remain flat until retirement, providing you take care of yourself. I'll let you know if it does.
Things I am worse at at 34 vs. 25: Staying up late, coding until the wee hours.
Things I am better at at 34 vs. 25: Not needing to stay up late, or code until the wee hours, and yet accomplishing more.
But what is the secret algorithm to small talk?
Three quick thoughts: 1. Relax. It's not a test or a contest, it's more like solving a puzzle together: what can we discover that we have in common. 2. Have a sense of warm curiosity about the other person. 3. Share details from your recent experiences and your reaction to them.
OK but this is not an algorithm - I was a bit excited, thinking he had a 1-2-3 formula to come up with a topic that always works in any context.
Pretending to know the secret algorithm to small talk.
Practice, practice, practice.
The same secret to everything else.
Realizing that it's play.
At 31, I've found that I've had sufficient opportunities to learn from the experience of screwing up to screw up less than in my 20s. I'm also fairly certain that the difference between success and failure is not screwing up enough for it to kill you.
It's interesting, I know a few early twenties startup founders (plus just a lot of college aged people) and very few have the arrogance that you claim to have had. In fact most follow the majority of your advice without having read your post, although that doesn't make it any less valid.
But what I'm really trying to ask, is I'm wondering if in ten years the maturity of the average young founder has changed. Are the people who start tech startups at 21 a different type of people than those who started them in the previous bubble? What changed? Where did the arrogance go? Or am I just hanging out with the wrong crowd?
When I was young I had an astonishingly good memory, and I could keep a remarkable amount of information in my head, so I never really had to write anything down. One wise manager warned me to be careful about relying too much on my strengths, so I did put effort into being more organized and to keep better records. I also worked on being more systematic, creating mini-project plans for everything I do. Now that I'm 47, I'm really glad I put in that effort.
Ummm, what was I saying? Sorry, I forgot. ;-)
Everything about getting older is great, bar the actual physical ageing.
Up to a point, after which one's also at greater risk from various brain diseases.
Isn't that part of physical ageing?
Learning is physical changes to the brain, too. Reputation is physical changes to other people's brains.
"So it turns out that getting older isn’t all that bad. Sure, people say that 30 is the new 25 (or is it the new 18? I can’t keep up)."
Ahem... well based on the fact that we're seeing "startup advice from the ripe old age of 30", I'd say it's more like 30 is the new 60. And my experience in the Valley would seem to reinforce this. :-)
Being risky without betting the farm.
Nothing wrong with betting the farm at 21 & single.
Now, 27 & married, I've found that I'm much better at taking calculated risks without betting the farm.
No,getting older is not bad at all, life takes its own sweet time teaching us its hidden tricks/ secretes to succeed:)
Seeing articles like this one makes me feel shameful about my country.
In Italy until 25 you're just a university student.
Friendly advice from a fellow italian HNer: please stop whining and get some stuff done.
That shouldn't stop you from being an entrepreneur
You're right, on should not make up excuses.
But speaking about the future of a country, giving the young the opportunity they are given in silicon valley is surely a good thing.
No ways man, entrepreneurs don't look for opportunities to be mouth fed. They create them. It's more fun to create outside silicon valley and then take there and grow further. (IMO)
Great read. Now that I am nearing 25, this was a question I used to ask myself.